God's Design for Marriage & Sexuality Recap

Last week we wraped up our series on God's Design for Marriage and Sexuality. Our desire to walk through this question was prompted by the SCOTUS decision, however, this was not primarily a series about homosexuality. This was primarily a series on the beauty of God's design. Rejection of God's design didn't happen in the SCOTUS decision, but in Eden. 

This Sunday in our Gospel Project Bible Study classes we will be looking at Human Rebellion from God's design. We will look at the root and consequences of our rebellion. In Genesis 3 we see a rejection of God's design, and every subsequent rejection of God's design stems from these moments. When Adam and Eve fell, their relationship with God ruptured. Furthermore, the relationship between Adam and Eve ruptured. 

It's remarkable to me the difference between Adam and Eve's relationship in chapter 2 and chapter 3. In chapter 2, upon waking up and seeing his bride from his side, Adam sings! "This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh!" But in chapter 3, Adam says to God, "The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate." Adam song turns to mourning. His joy turns to shame. What first brought excitement was transformed to blame and enmity. 

What is the medicine for this enmity? This broken marriage? The Gospel. In Genesis 3:15, God preaches the first evangelistic message: "I will put enmity between you (Satan) and the woman, between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel." The seed of the serpent—sin, death, strife, toil, evil, and suffering will be crushed by the seed of the woman—Jesus Christ (for an excellent article on this, click here).

We do believe that homosexuality is a deviation from the perfect design of God, but so is fornication, divorce, and pornography. We cannot scream against homosexuality and turn a blind eye to these other things that grieve the heart of God. It should grieve us and move us to love those steeped in sexual sin. We each stem from Eden, so we are all sexually broken, whether we know it or not. 

Our response is Micah 6:8, "He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and walk humbly with your God?" If the church is not a safe place for the sexually broken, then it is not a safe place for any of us. And if we do not welcome the broken, then we don't really believe the God of grace who welcomes us despite our evil. 

Let us not take upon us a task not given to us. As Pastor Tim said, "You are not to be a crusader to un-gay someone, or to do away with gay marriage. That's the Holy Spirit's job. You don't have the ability to convict anyone of any sin... Our job is to introduce people to the loving Gospel of Jesus Christ and when they put their faith and trust in Jesus, we disciple them to look more like [Him] every single day." May we steward our task well for the glory of God!

Sermon Recap: God's Design for Marriage

Last Sunday we began our series on God's Design for Marriage and Sexuality. We began with 4 major premises that are a given in today's culture. 

1) Pornography is a given. This does not mean that everyone is actively engaged, addicted, or looking for pornography. This does mean that pornography is unavoidable. You can't watch TV without seeing scantily clad cheerleaders or a Victoria's Secret commercial. In addition, the internet is fully accessible to everyone through various modes (computer, tablet, & phone). Therefore, it's important for us to be on guard, and also train our children how to live in a sex saturated culture. 

2) Sex is expected. Today it is fair to assume that the average couple is sleeping together, and many times are unashamed in that admission. 

3) Gay is okay. Many grew up in a day when homosexuality was taboo and was just conceptual. Now, many of us have dear friends and family members that are gay or struggle with same-sex attraction (SSA). This  has caused what was once conceptual to become personal. This actually allows us to love them better. If we treat them as concepts and not as people, then we will never be heard. 

4) Marriage is a capstone, not a cornerstone. Many of us were raised with these instructions: "Get good grades in high school. Get into the college that will equip you and give you the credentials you need to get the job you want. Make money and enjoy life. Then, when you've had your fun, settle down with a spouse." This promotes that marriage is settled for the latter part of your life—live first, then get married. The truth is all your life you have been designed for marriage to be your cornerstone unless God has called you to be single.  

We looked at two key passages of Scripture—Ephesians 5:22-33 & Matthew 19:3-9.  We learned:

Marriage is one man, one woman, for life, and practicing gender roles. 

The Purpose of Marriage

1) Marriage is intended to image Christ in the world. Marriage images Christ's intention to mankind, the only proper response of mankind to Christ, and what happens when mankind responds to Christ properly. The husbands call is to image the love of Christ to the church by loving his wife. The wife's call is to receive the love of the husband and submit to him as the church receives the love of Christ and submits to him. The husbands call to love should be modeled after and image Christ's self-sacrificial emptying of himself for the joy of the church. The wife's reception and submission images the church's response to the love of Christ. The benefits of this proper order is love, trust, security, and intimacy. 

2) Marriage is intended to sanctify the husband and the wife. When God's design for marriage is followed, the husband and the wife are sanctified and they become more and more like Jesus Christ. When we fail to walk in God's design for marriage, then we often thwart God's sanctifying purpose for marriage. A spouse is a tool in the hands of God to make you holy. 

his Sunday we will look more specifically to the Supreme Court's decision and how Christians ought to respond. On one hand we must be bold, but we must not ostracize those who experience same-sex attraction. Join us this Sunday. 

How to Respond to Confession

One of our hopes in making disciples at Coggin is that we be a part of a culture where we don't have to pretend like we've got it all together. Living with an a polished veneer is a type of self-preservation that may lead others to think highly of us, but in the end it's a false image that breeds false hope in a false savior. Our efforts of self-preservation are a tendency of the flesh that we pray the Spirit breaks in us, because when we admit that we're not all put together and that we are desperately in need of the grace of God for our continual shaping into Christ's image, then and only then will we know what it means to walk in freedom.

However, if this is truly to become a part of our culture, then not only do we need to learn how to  lay aside the polished veneer and confess our sins, but we also need to know how to respond when someone confesses sin to us. It's something you may not think about until the moment comes and you may end up feeling dumbstruck or respond with "Okay, Thanks for sharing." Here are a few things to keep in mind as we fight for one another's joy in Christ.

1. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. 

One of the biggest mistakes we can make when hearing the confession of a brother or sister is to interject comments or questions too quickly. Confessing sin can be very difficult and finding the right words may take time, so we must always guard our tongues and allow the person confessing sin to lay out their heart on their terms. A sure fire way to stifle confession is to be impatient or chatty. In moments of silence you may feel the need to make a joke to lighten the mood or share one of your experiences to spur them on. Fight that urge and instead pray silently that the Spirit would empower them to obedience. 

Not only should we be quick to listen and slow to speak, but we should also be slow to anger.  Our anger can be kindled in several ways, but two include: 1) the sin being confessed is a direct offense to you. 2) Reoccurring sin that you know is destroying the joy of your brother or sister. Whatever the case, respond with grace. 

2. Point them to the Gospel. 

The way we respond with grace is by pointing our friends to the Gospel. The essence of the Gospel is not I obey, therefore I'm accepted, but I'm accepted, therefore I obey. So, our response should never resemble "Well, just try harder this week." Such a response is lacking of two major components to Christian confession that must be present. The first is assurance of pardon. Our knee jerk reaction can at times tend to be encouragement void of the Gospel, which amounts to spurring one another to good behavior. When someone confesses sin to you, this is an amazing opportunity to be obedient and share the Gospel with someone in need. The Gospel isn't just for those who are apart from Christ, but for those who belong to Him as well. This provides an opportunity for you to remind your brother or sister of the God who loved them so much that he sent his only Son to take their place on the cross where He absorbed the full wrath of God on their behalf and settled their debt. Now risen and securing their place in God's family, there is now no condemnation them because they are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1)! Christian confession is only distinctly Christian when there is assurance of pardon. We all crave this assurance even when we don't realize it, because deep down we know that if we confess our sin, He who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Therefore, your responsibility as a brother or sister is to point your friend to the one who is faithful, just, and promises to cleanse. The second aspect our response often lacks is the power to go and sin no moreThis is an extension of the assurance of pardon. In order for us to leave with any power for the upcoming fight, we need to be reminded of the indwelling Spirit who works in us both to will and to work for God's good pleasure (Philippians 2:16). Fuel for the fight will never be found in exhortations to behave ourselves, but only comes when we kill the flesh by the power of the Spirit (Romans 8:13). Remind your friend to humbly rely on the Spirit of God and the word of God.

3. Pray for them.

James 5:16 says, "Confess your sins one to another AND pray for one another that you may be healed. Pray for him or her on the spot and use that time to remind yourselves once again of the God who has cleansed us of sin, buried us with Christ in baptism, and raised us to live the resurrection life. Then, commit to pray for them and with them as they walk in repentance and faith.

Learning how to respond to those who confess sin is just as important as learning how to confess sin. Confession without assurance and empowering to walk in holiness puts us in danger of losing sight of our dependance on the Spirit and our redemption that's been won through Christ. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. Make the most of a person's confession by pointing them to the Gospel of Jesus. Pray for your brother or sister—that the Spirit of God would restore and empower them to walk in newness of life. 

Fight Club Resources

At Coggin, we believe in the necessity of the church, each other, for the Spirit-filled life that Christ has redeemed us to walk in. This is why we are encouraging everyone to get plugged in to a Fight Club. These are small groups of 2-3, men with men and women with women, who come together for a two-fold purpose: to fight for faith and against sin. Click below to learn more.

After you've chosen your group and set a meeting time, you might be thinking, "What next?" When you come together, remember the grid for discussion is Text-Theology-Life. The best course of action is for your group to pick a book of the Bible and read through it.

When you come together, ask questions that try to unpack the Gospel truths presented. What is being said about God? What attribute of God is being highlighted here? What is being said about man? What does this say about our sin, our plight, and our redemption? How does this foreshadow, display, or unpack the person and work of Jesus Christ? These are by no means the limit, but when we talk about Gospel truths, we mean those things that pertain to all mankind and are centered on the the Good News of Jesus Christ.

As you discuss these things, you ask questions that pertain to your specific situation. How do the truths presented here speak to my struggle with sin, my victories, or my trials? What is the Spirit calling me to believe about God and His word? What is the Spirit calling me to believe about myself in light of Him? What conviction is the Spirit working in my soul? 

As you voice your struggle with sin, be specific. It simply isn't effective to say, "I struggle with sins of pride." What particular sins do you entertain? When do you entertain those sins? Why do you believe you entertain those sins? What Gospel promises are you actually rejecting when you entertain those sins? How is Jesus better than the sins we entertain.

Satan is crafty in that he appeals to our desires—so when we discuss our sins, we must get to the root cause, not simply the fruit that hangs on the limb that's connected to the trunk that springs from the root. 


We understand that you may need some guidance along the grid of Text-Theology-Life, so here are some suggested materials that we will add to as we become aware of more.

1) The Bible. I realize that this may sound like a given, but it's so easy for us to move quickly from the Bible to a study or commentary on what someone else has to say about the Bible. Spend the bulk of your time chewing on the passage that your group has agreed on. A good study Bible with Gospel connections and theological notes would be helpful. The ESV Study Bible is an excellent choice. 

2) Gospel-Centered Discipleship by Jonathan Dodson. Pastor Jonathan is the one who gave us the vision for Fight Clubs and helped us think through some of the biblical, theological, and philosophical points of discipleship. This book would add more understanding regarding where we (the leadership) are hoping to lead our community.

3) Know the Bible Series by Crossway Publishers. These are 12 week studies done on various books of the Bible that aren't meant to be commentaries, but pointed discussion questions on the theology and application of the books. Because they are 12 weeks in duration, they are more focused on big picture and broad brush glances at the books they cover. 

Remember, these groups are meant to be simple. God has freely given us his Spirit, His Word, and His people to help us fight for faith and against sin. If you will keep these core tenants as the foundation of your Fight Club, then your group will fight well. Fight for one another and point each other to Jesus!


What is the Gospel?


One of the worst things that could possibly happen in the church is for the people of God to forget the centrality of the Gospel, not only in our justification (right standing before God), but also our sanctification (process of becoming more like Christ), and ultimately in our glorification (the finished work where we are perfectly conformed to Christ image). The most beneficial thing for the people of God to do is to constantly meditate on the Gospel, viewing all of life through the lens of the person and work of Jesus Christ. Even still, it is of the utmost importance that the church continues to remind herself of what the Gospel is and what it is not, because slipping into error at this point can result in a faulty view of God, people, and the rest of creation.

What the Gospel is Not

The first common misconception of the Gospel is that it is simply submission to a moral code of conduct. One of the great difficulties in interpreting the biblical text is how to understand the moral imperatives. Jesus was often asked the question, “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” What is interesting is Jesus never gave the exact same answer, and what is revealed in that is Jesus wasn’t interested at all in what that person could, or would do, but rather He was after their heart. Perhaps the best example is seen in Matthew 19:16-30, in the story of the rich young man. After the man insisted that he had obeyed the law without fail, Jesus then said, “If you wish to be perfect, go sell your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” The young man’s reaction is evidence that what he claimed to be true about himself, namely that he was a righteous man, did not extend from an intrinsic reality or renewed heart. He was resting his justification solely on the belief that he had kept the entire law. However, Jesus clearly instructs us that our righteousness can do nothing in regards to our standing with God (Rom 3:10-31; 4:5). 

A second misconception that is often made about the Gospel is that it is a ‘get out of hell free card.’ Now, there are few that would actually be so bold as to define the Gospel this way, but if we would simply examine how we often describe the Gospel, or how we share the Gospel with others, perhaps we would see that too often it gets boiled down to escaping hell. The intention behind sharing the Gospel this way does not originate from a wicked place, but rather a place that understands the reality of hell and how awfully it truly is. However, what tends to happen is a type of ‘one-and-done’ evangelism, whereby we share that Jesus came to die in order to forgive our sins so that we can spend eternity with Him and not go to hell. There really isn’t anything particularly wrong with that statement. As a matter of fact, Paul wrote essentially the same thing, “Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures, and that he was buried, and that he was raised on the third day according to the scriptures (1 Cor 15:3b-4).” However, if we make our escape from hell the point, then it can lend itself to being primarily man-centered (Christ died ultimately for you) and fear based. Perhaps, this method of sharing the Gospel is not far reaching, but Christians should always remember that heaven is not for those who are afraid of hell, but for those who love God and respond to Him in faith (Eph 2:8, 9).

A third misconception that has been made about the Gospel is that it is to be understood as social liberation. It is clear from the lives written of in Scripture that the Gospel has definitive results on society as those redeemed live, work, and play within a specific social structure. However, movements have arisen from within Christianity that emphasize the immanence of God, the structure of society, human companionship, and Christ as a model of correct ethics as the central focus of the Gospel. Thus, the emphasis is not on the person and work of Jesus Christ, rather man’s responsibility to alleviate oppression. The command to ‘look after widows and orphans (Jas. 1:27),’ is clear and Christians are called to impact the culture. No true Christian would contend that social concern is a responsibility of the church, but it simply is not the Gospel as it is biblically defined. 

What is the Gospel?

    First and foremost, the Gospel is rooted in the nature of God and is made known and accomplished for us by the person and work of Jesus Christ. In the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the attributes of God were on display. Christians profess that God is both just and merciful in that, because He is holy, sin must be punished in accordance with His justice. However, God desiring to show mercy to sinful men, offered to us His Son, on whom His wrath was poured so that He might extend mercy to us and not give us the punishment we deserve (Rom 3:25; Heb 2:17; 1 Jn 2:2, 4:10; Eph 2:1-9). In his crucifixion on our behalf, Jesus assumed our sin and became sin for us, so that in his death we might be made righteous before God (2 Cor 5:21). However, the Gospel not only centers on the death of Christ, but also on his resurrection. As a matter of fact, Paul writes that the work of salvation is impossible and incomplete without the resurrection (1 Cor 15:12-17). Therefore, at its core, the Gospel is rooted in God’s nature and is accomplished by the work of Jesus Christ, his death and resurrection, which justify those who believe (Rom 5:9).

    Secondly, the Gospel is the story of Scripture. In the previous section it was mentioned that a Gospel that is just concerned with the forgiveness of sins and escaping hell is ultimately man-centered and fear based. Here is why the Gospel that Paul is describing is different from that Gospel. In 1 Corinthians 15:3b-4, Paul writes, “For I passed on to you as of first importance what I also received – that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures, and that he was buried, and that he was raised on the third day according to the scriptures. Paul does not simply have a ‘forgiveness of sins and escape hell’ view of the Gospel, and that is clearly seen by the phrase, “according to the Scriptures.” In Paul’s mind, Jesus Christ, his death and resurrection, was the totality and summation of all that was written about in the Old Testament. Paul knew well that a summary of the Gospel, much like what is written in 1 Corinthians 15, does not make sense divorced from the whole of redemptive history. Thus, the Gospel is the story of Jesus Christ as written about in the Gospels, but it is also the broad narrative of the entire scope of Scripture—to put it simply, the Gospel is the story of God.

    Finally, the Gospel is the restoration and reconciliation of creation to the Triune God. The Gospel is often presented as it has been presented above—that Christ bore the sins of humanity, received the blow of God’s wrath on our behalf in order that we might stand justified before the Father and spend eternity with Him. However, the Gospel also has a broad cosmic scope, whereby all of creation will be renewed. In Revelation, John writes that he saw a new heaven and a new earth for the first had past away. Then he said that the one that was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new (Re 21:5).” Now, it is important to note that describing the Gospel as it is described above is not wrong, but there is an important element to the recreation of all things that reminds us that God is seeking to set right all that went wrong in the fall (Gen. 3). If we neglect this, then we are in danger of missing out on a glorious aspect of the Gospel and we are in danger of robbing God of the worship that is due Him.


    Remembering the Gospel of Jesus Christ is the role of every believer. We not only begin with the Gospel, but we also walk according to it and will ultimately end in it. Proper understanding and meditation upon the Gospel will guard the church from losing sight of its mission, which is to make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey all that [Christ] commanded (Matt 28:19). Let it never be said that we have forgotten the Gospel that we once joyfully received. May we never believe we have matured beyond it, and may we never be deceived into believing it is something that it is not.